Mending the Fragmented Self...Becoming Whole Again
Shamanic healing is still vital to today’s world. Perhaps more so, in that our disconnection to Mother Earth, ourselves, each other and Source has its consequences; we suffer more stress related physical and emotional conditions than ever before. We are all fragmented and calling back missing aspects of ourselves is to come back into wholeness.
Soul Loss: When a person suffers a traumatic event (what is traumatic for children is according to, in part the level of sensitivity of the child experiencing the event) a part of the soul splinters off in order to prevent the individual from feeling the full impact of the pain or fear etc. Death, divorce, abuse, surgery, shock from war and accidents are examples of situations that can lead to soul loss. Soul loss is loss of one’s own life force essence, or vitality. Shamans believe most ‘soul parts’ are unable to come back to the person on their own, and may not even know they are ‘lost’.
Some signs of soul loss are:
Inability to ‘move on’ after the event
Inability to fully engage in one’s own life
Person seems scattered, unable to cope with day to day activities
Feeling spacey
Feeling like part of one’s self is missing
Statements like "I feel like part of me has died"
Addictions
Chronic illness such as fibromyalgia, depression
Post traumatic stress
Suicidal feelings
Anger issues
Control issues
Coma – complete soul loss
Soul Loss: When a person suffers a traumatic event (what is traumatic for children is according to, in part the level of sensitivity of the child experiencing the event) a part of the soul splinters off in order to prevent the individual from feeling the full impact of the pain or fear etc. Death, divorce, abuse, surgery, shock from war and accidents are examples of situations that can lead to soul loss. Soul loss is loss of one’s own life force essence, or vitality. Shamans believe most ‘soul parts’ are unable to come back to the person on their own, and may not even know they are ‘lost’.
Some signs of soul loss are:
Inability to ‘move on’ after the event
Inability to fully engage in one’s own life
Person seems scattered, unable to cope with day to day activities
Feeling spacey
Feeling like part of one’s self is missing
Statements like "I feel like part of me has died"
Addictions
Chronic illness such as fibromyalgia, depression
Post traumatic stress
Suicidal feelings
Anger issues
Control issues
Coma – complete soul loss
TO ASSIST IN IDENTIFYING SOUL LOSS:
FOUR UNIVERSAL HEALING QUESTIONS SHAMANS WORLD-WIDE ASK…
1. When did you stop singing (or speaking your truth)?
People send away their voice – often from ridicule – we stop sharing – we need to listen and let others speak.
2. When did you stop dancing (or being connected to body)?
Being in body is one of the greatest human gifts – even offer it to our guides and power animals (watch 2 yr olds).
3. When did you stop being enchanted with stories (especially your own life story)?
There is a story in buying a grapefruit (watch the 2 yr olds).
4. When did you stop being comfortable with the sweet territory of silence (or listening to your own inherent wisdom)?
Busyness – keeping busy – our culture is built on soul loss; the more soul parts you have back the less noise tolerant you become.
People send away their voice – often from ridicule – we stop sharing – we need to listen and let others speak.
2. When did you stop dancing (or being connected to body)?
Being in body is one of the greatest human gifts – even offer it to our guides and power animals (watch 2 yr olds).
3. When did you stop being enchanted with stories (especially your own life story)?
There is a story in buying a grapefruit (watch the 2 yr olds).
4. When did you stop being comfortable with the sweet territory of silence (or listening to your own inherent wisdom)?
Busyness – keeping busy – our culture is built on soul loss; the more soul parts you have back the less noise tolerant you become.
Soul Thievery
Soul Thievery is a common phenomenon. Probably everyone has experience being with another person and feeling ‘drained’, tired, often with a headache, but you felt fine before you met up with this person. That person is most likely taking your energy, albeit, on some level you are allowing this to occur. No one can take your energy without your permission.
People who drain others do so because they don’t have enough of their own, and mistakenly believe they can use another person’s energy. They need to have their own energy restored and you need your own energy given back to you. This will change the dynamics of the relationship in a positive way.
Once you learn how to protect yourself from being drained, such as surrounding your self with light and having clear intent that the person is not allowed to take your energy, you will feel more empowered around that person. Learning how to call back your own life force essence changes the dynamics of the relationship in a healing way.
Sometimes that person becomes uncooperative and even angry; a fear reaction. That person needs their own energy brought back to them so they feel more complete and empowered and lose the need to steal from others.
Ways people steal energy is by:
‘dumping’ on others
unconstructive criticism
physical, sexual and emotional abuse
manipulation
isolating a spouse financially and/or socially
emotional blackmail
control tactics
People who drain others do so because they don’t have enough of their own, and mistakenly believe they can use another person’s energy. They need to have their own energy restored and you need your own energy given back to you. This will change the dynamics of the relationship in a positive way.
Once you learn how to protect yourself from being drained, such as surrounding your self with light and having clear intent that the person is not allowed to take your energy, you will feel more empowered around that person. Learning how to call back your own life force essence changes the dynamics of the relationship in a healing way.
Sometimes that person becomes uncooperative and even angry; a fear reaction. That person needs their own energy brought back to them so they feel more complete and empowered and lose the need to steal from others.
Ways people steal energy is by:
‘dumping’ on others
unconstructive criticism
physical, sexual and emotional abuse
manipulation
isolating a spouse financially and/or socially
emotional blackmail
control tactics
Soul Trading
Soul trading is especially common between spouses and good friends. We have all taken energy from someone. Soul trading creates an unbalanced, unhealthy relationship. Someone always loses. The person with the least amount left to give usually has to end the relationship as a survival mechanism. Particularly with spouses, the person being left behind sometimes panics, as they (unconsciously) see a part of themselves leaving with the person who is leaving (the energy they’ve lost to that person). This can result in obsessive behaviour such as harassment, refusing to let the person go, stalking and even spousal murder. The person leaving is often in fear, and not in a healthful state, as energy loss can create physical illness.
Doing an energy exchange between the two people involved will mend the relationship. It does not guarantee the relationship will be rekindled after the relationship has broken down. The harassment will stop, as the person now has his/her own energy back and no longer feels the compulsion to stalk. Anger felt by both individuals will lesson or disappear. A renewed sense of wholeness means they can get on with their lives. I have done the energy exchange for many women who have left an abusive relationship with dramatic results. These women are always surprized and relieved to find they are suddenly able to move forward so easily without the pressure to return to the relationship.
If the two involved have not already ended the relationship, it is probable, if the two still love each other, that enough healing will take place to create a more healthy and balanced relationship. But it takes work. Being conscious of how they interact with each other in the future is mandatory to keep from going back into that old pattern of soul trading and recreating the damage.
Doing an energy exchange between the two people involved will mend the relationship. It does not guarantee the relationship will be rekindled after the relationship has broken down. The harassment will stop, as the person now has his/her own energy back and no longer feels the compulsion to stalk. Anger felt by both individuals will lesson or disappear. A renewed sense of wholeness means they can get on with their lives. I have done the energy exchange for many women who have left an abusive relationship with dramatic results. These women are always surprized and relieved to find they are suddenly able to move forward so easily without the pressure to return to the relationship.
If the two involved have not already ended the relationship, it is probable, if the two still love each other, that enough healing will take place to create a more healthy and balanced relationship. But it takes work. Being conscious of how they interact with each other in the future is mandatory to keep from going back into that old pattern of soul trading and recreating the damage.
How to Heal the Relationship
When an energy exchange is done between the two individuals, it encompasses healing by the giving back of energy that belongs to the rightful owners. During a shamanic journey I will meet up with both people and often negotiate the exchange with the person being left behind, as there is sometimes a reluctance to participate in the session. Education and finding out the person’s power animal for them is often all that’s needed for them to willingly give up the energy that isn’t theirs and receive what is.
The result of the energy exchange is a healthier relationship and the lessening of anger, resentment and fear. The two are now able to get on with their separate lives.
In a situation where the two remain together, the dynamics are that of a more balanced and healthy relationship. When the two are educated as to how to relate to one another in a healthful way without draining each other, the results are powerful.
During one of my workshops, one woman realized she could finally help her son heal over being humiliated by a teacher. He was afraid to go to school and his confidence was diminished. I coached her through the calling back of the energy from the teacher and returning it to her son.
The result of the energy exchange is a healthier relationship and the lessening of anger, resentment and fear. The two are now able to get on with their separate lives.
In a situation where the two remain together, the dynamics are that of a more balanced and healthy relationship. When the two are educated as to how to relate to one another in a healthful way without draining each other, the results are powerful.
During one of my workshops, one woman realized she could finally help her son heal over being humiliated by a teacher. He was afraid to go to school and his confidence was diminished. I coached her through the calling back of the energy from the teacher and returning it to her son.
Fetal Soul Loss
The fetal soul part is a very powerful soul part to have returned to an individual. When a woman is pregnant, the unborn child feels what the mother feels. As a result, the child may take on the mother’s issue thinking it is their own. A recurring theme in my workshops is mothers realizing the correlation between what is going on with their child, or their relationship with their child, and what the mother experienced while pregnant. For instance, a woman who was in fear while pregnant may find their child carries a lot of fear and it interferes with the quality of the child’s life.
One of my students, "Jane", was able to clearly see the results of her 3 pregnancies with her 3 children. In her first pregnancy she experienced verbal abuse and had low self-esteem. Her daughter suffered from low self-esteem and had no confidence that she could hold a job. After Jane did the soul retrieval for her daughter, with my coaching, her daughter, within a couple of weeks, landed a high pressure job managing a restaurant. The daughter love the job and excelled at it.
Jane's relationship with her spouse ended while pregant with her second child, her son.
She felt, lost and didn't know what to do with her life, where to live etc. That child, as a young adult, had no direction in life and was drifting from job to job. After returning the lost energy to her son, he settled down at a job he enjoyed and decided to put money aside to buy land.
Jane had 'pulled herself together' and became a workaholic in order to both show her independance and to stop herself from dealing with personal issues; this state of mind continued through her third pregnancy. That daughter was both a perfectionist and a workaholic, allowing no time to relax or visit with family. A few weeks after Jane did the soul retrieval for this daughter, she suddenly announced to her mother that she was working too hard and was going to find a job where she could have more personal time. She also admitted to her mother that she was a perfectionist and was going to try and stop expecting so much of other people, particularly family members.
During the workshops, these mothers have learned how to call back the energy to the child, and have found wonderful results. As a result, they find a rewarding sense of nurturing/loving in a new and powerful way for their children.
One of my students, "Jane", was able to clearly see the results of her 3 pregnancies with her 3 children. In her first pregnancy she experienced verbal abuse and had low self-esteem. Her daughter suffered from low self-esteem and had no confidence that she could hold a job. After Jane did the soul retrieval for her daughter, with my coaching, her daughter, within a couple of weeks, landed a high pressure job managing a restaurant. The daughter love the job and excelled at it.
Jane's relationship with her spouse ended while pregant with her second child, her son.
She felt, lost and didn't know what to do with her life, where to live etc. That child, as a young adult, had no direction in life and was drifting from job to job. After returning the lost energy to her son, he settled down at a job he enjoyed and decided to put money aside to buy land.
Jane had 'pulled herself together' and became a workaholic in order to both show her independance and to stop herself from dealing with personal issues; this state of mind continued through her third pregnancy. That daughter was both a perfectionist and a workaholic, allowing no time to relax or visit with family. A few weeks after Jane did the soul retrieval for this daughter, she suddenly announced to her mother that she was working too hard and was going to find a job where she could have more personal time. She also admitted to her mother that she was a perfectionist and was going to try and stop expecting so much of other people, particularly family members.
During the workshops, these mothers have learned how to call back the energy to the child, and have found wonderful results. As a result, they find a rewarding sense of nurturing/loving in a new and powerful way for their children.